Having meaningful conversations is an important part of any relationship, and sometimes it can be difficult to know where to start. Here are some different types of conversation starters that can help spark meaningful conversations with your partner.
Personal growth
Ask your partner about their goals, dreams, and aspirations. What are they working towards, and how can you support them? This can lead to discussions about personal growth and self-improvement, and can also help you get to know your partner on a deeper level.
- What are your long-term goals and aspirations?
- How do you hope to grow and improve as a person in the next year?
- What are some things you’ve struggled with in the past that you’ve overcome?
- What are some things you’re currently working on to become a better person?
- What are some things you hope to achieve in your lifetime?
- How do you define success for yourself?
- What are your values and how do you try to live by them?
- What are some things you’re passionate about?
- How do you try to stay motivated and inspired?
- What are some challenges you’ve faced and how did you overcome them?
- What are some things you’ve learned from your past experiences?
- What are some things you’re proud of about yourself?
- How do you try to take care of your physical and mental health?
- What are some ways you try to continue learning and growing as a person?
- What are some things that bring you joy and fulfillment?
Hobbies and interests
Ask your partner about their hobbies and interests, and share your own. This can lead to discussions about new activities you can try together, or ways that you can support each other in pursuing your individual interests.
- What are your hobbies and interests outside of work/school?
- How did you get interested in your hobbies and interests?
- What are your favorite things to do in your free time?
- What are some hobbies or interests you’ve always wanted to try but haven’t yet?
- Do you have any collections or passions that you’re particularly proud of?
- What are some things you’re knowledgeable about that you enjoy sharing with others?
- What are some things you’re passionate about learning more about?
- How do your hobbies and interests help you relax and de-stress?
- Do you have any creative outlets (e.g. art, music, writing)?
- What are some things you enjoy doing alone and what are some things you enjoy doing with others?
- What are some activities you and your partner can do together to bond and have fun?
- What are some hobbies or interests you’ve explored together as a couple?
- How do your hobbies and interests align or differ from your partner’s?
- Have you ever traveled somewhere specifically to try a new hobby or interest?
- What are some hobbies or interests that you’ve outgrown or lost interest in?
Current events
Discussing current events can be a great way to stay informed and engaged in the world around you. Ask your partner for their perspective on a current event that you both find interesting, or share your own thoughts and see if you can find common ground.
- What are some current events that you’ve been following recently?
- Do you have any strong opinions about current events?
- What are some current events that have affected you personally or your community?
- What are some current events that you think are important for people to be aware of?
- How do you stay informed about current events?
- Do you and your partner have different perspectives on current events? How do you handle those differences?
- Have you ever attended a protest or rally related to a current event?
- What are some current events that you think are being underreported?
- How do you think social media and the internet have impacted the way we consume and discuss current events?
- Have you ever had a conversation with someone who had a different perspective on a current event than you? How did that go?
- What are some current events that have had a lasting impact on the world?
- How do you think current events have shaped your personal beliefs and values?
- What are some current events that you think will have a lasting impact on the future?
- What are some current events that have inspired you to take action?
- What are some current events that have made you feel hopeful or optimistic?
Relationships and communication
Talk about your relationship and how you communicate with each other. What do you appreciate about your partner, and what could you both work on to improve your communication and connection?
- How do you and your partner communicate with each other?
- What are some things you appreciate about your partner’s communication style?
- What are some things you think you could both work on to improve your communication?
- What are some things that you wish you could share with your partner but have trouble bringing up?
- How do you and your partner handle conflicts or disagreements?
- What are some things that you and your partner do to show each other love and support?
- How do you and your partner make time for each other and prioritize your relationship?
- What are some things you and your partner enjoy doing together?
- How do you and your partner support each other’s goals and aspirations?
- What are some things you and your partner have learned about each other over the course of your relationship?
- What are some things you and your partner do to keep the spark alive in your relationship?
- How do you and your partner handle long distance or times apart?
- How do you and your partner make sure to keep the romance alive in your relationship?
- What are some things you and your partner have done to strengthen your bond and connection?
- What are some things you and your partner have learned about yourselves as individuals through your relationship?
Fond memories
Share your favorite memories with your partner and ask them about their favorite memories with you. This can be a great way to reminisce and feel more connected to each other.
- What are some of your favorite memories with your partner?
- What are some of your favorite things about your partner that you remember from the beginning of your relationship?
- What are some things you and your partner have done together that you’ll always remember?
- What are some memorable vacations or trips you’ve taken together?
- What are some of your partner’s quirks or habits that you find endearing and memorable?
- What are some of your partner’s accomplishments that you’re especially proud of?
- What are some memorable moments from your relationship that make you laugh?
- What are some of your favorite memories with your partner’s family or friends?
- What are some of your partner’s talents or skills that you find memorable and impressive?
- What are some memorable moments from your relationship that have made you feel especially close or connected to your partner?
- What are some memorable events or milestones in your relationship?
- What are some things you and your partner have done that you never thought you’d do together?
- What are some memorable ways that your partner has surprised or impressed you?
- What are some memorable things that you and your partner have done to make each other happy?
- What are some memorable things that your partner has done for you that you’ll always be grateful for?
Vulnerability
Take the time to share your deepest thoughts and feelings with your partner. This can be scary, but it can also be incredibly rewarding and help strengthen your bond.
- What are some things that you’re afraid to share with your partner?
- What are some insecurities or vulnerabilities that you struggle with?
- What are some things that you wish you could change about yourself?
- What are some things that you’re ashamed of or that you feel guilty about?
- What are some things that you find difficult to talk about with your partner?
- What are some things that you’re worried about or that you fear will come between you and your partner?
- What are some things that you find difficult to open up about with others in general?
- What are some things that you’re sensitive about or that easily trigger strong emotions for you?
- What are some things that you’re struggling with that you feel like you can’t talk to anyone else about?
- What are some things that you wish your partner knew about you but that you haven’t shared with them yet?
- What are some things that you’re unsure of or that you’re trying to figure out about yourself?
- What are some things that you’re struggling with that you feel like you could use your partner’s support with?
- What are some things that you wish you could change about your relationship?
- What are some things that you’re afraid of losing in your relationship?
- What are some things that you’re struggling with that you feel like you could benefit from your partner’s perspective on?
Remember that the most important thing is to be open, honest, and authentic in your conversations. By being present and engaged with your partner, you can create a deeper connection and have more meaningful conversations.
